Happy Saturday friends! It’s been a little while since I’ve made a post and as much as I’ve missed sharing I’ve been taking much needed time to focus on managing this season of my life to the best of my ability. However this week I had a little something that I felt would be a good reminder to share. As we are currently in the final quarter of the year I typically become more reflective than usual as I begin to reflect on the course of this year. I tend to analyze situations I’ve experienced and reflect on how I’ve handled and responded to situations etc etc.
One of the things that I’ve learned about myself in a season where I’ve been disappointed about a lot of things lately, I realized that I’ve set expectations for a lot of things in my life. I had to ask myself what truly was the root of my disappointment? It’s rare that I use the word disappointed to describe how I feel regarding a situation but lately that’s been the description. When I was talking to God about how I was feeling I heard Him say, you set unrealistic expectations. It was then when I really had to step back and really anazlyze how I view things about my life and my future and even my relationships with people. I had to ask myself if I truly set and have unrealistic expectations for myself and do I put those expectations on people too. The answers to my question unfortunately is yes.
I’m learning that putting expectations on other and on even yourself sets you up for true disappointment. It puts you in a place where you can become susceptible of putting your visions, dreams, desires, plans, etc above God’s perfect plan for your life. You become susceptible of being in control and putting your faith and trust in man. The reality of a thing is that man is going to fail you every time. Why so, simply because we are imperfect beings who can’t check off every box on a person’s list. Also it’s just simply unfair. Another reality that is true is that God is not like man and because He’s not like man He can’t and won’t ever disappoint us. He can’t fail and with God we can’t fail.
The cost of expectations leads to disappointment and in disappointment we can be influenced to react to situations out of hurt, anger, bitterness, etc. I learned from my own reality that we have to be more aware of all of the feelings and thoughts that we suppress. All of the things that lie dormant deep down. We can try to avoid all we want but eventually how we really feel about a thing or a situation comes out in our behavior. One of the things I had to do was really step back and process how I have been feeling. I’ve had to actually talk it out and in doing so I realized that I was feeling things I didn’t even know I was feeling. You have to pray through that thing too. I’ve been spending a lot of time being transparent with God about how I’ve been feeling about everything I’ve experienced over the past couple of months and it’s been freeing. Even in my waiting for the end results of a thing, it’s freeing knowing that I can go to my Father and be free.
I encourage you today to take down all the expectations. Destroy the expectations completely and let God fill in those missing gaps. Let God do what man can’t do in your life.
My prayer today is that we don’t and won’t be bound by the expectations that we put on ourselves and on others. I pray that we will trust in God enough to know that we won’t be disappointed with God and that in that we also won’t be put to shame. (Psalm 25:3)
With love,
-Yours Truly, Eb
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